How it all started

So I have a little ways to go before I catch up to where we are now, but I thought I’d start off slow. No point dumping all the good stuff on you at once right? Some of you are probably thinking, “Gee, how did a girl like you decide to become a swinger?” Well this is what happened with us.

Less than half a year ago I came to a realization about my sexuality. For years I had found myself having harmless crushes on girls or I would admire the beauty of an actress or model, but I just assumed it was a normal curiosity girls (and guys) tend to go through. Since getting married though, I started to find myself attracted more to girls than guys which made me think that there might be more to my innocent curiosity. Maybe it was because I found the perfect guy for me, that the girls started to stand out more now. I’m not really sure what it was. Around the time I really started noticing these feelings I was having towards girls, I posted on my favourite message board (which most of you may have heard of :P) using a secret name we had been using to post our most intimate secrets, that I was attracted to women. Being unable to keep a secret to save my life and being giddy about my newly (barely) exposed secret, I showed the posts to M (I found a suitable alternative to my crappy emoticons) and he guessed fairly quickly which one was mine. Needless to say he was quite excited about the new revelation. After me mentioning the possibility and after much discussion and deliberation, we decided that a threesome with another girl would be right up our alley!

Our search became a long and tedious one, going from dating site to dating site trying to find “the girl for us”. We talked to plenty and arranged to meet a few but ended up getting blown off when it came right down to it. Various excuses for blowing us off without a call or an e-mail included: “I didn’t feel like doing anything tonight and you didn’t say anything more before I went offline” (or better known as, “I thought you were psychic”), “I know I told you I’m single, but I have a boyfriend and he wanted to come over – it’s complicated”, etc. Generally these single girls were way too wishy washy and didn’t really know what they wanted. That’s when we met E and B. They were looking for other couples, and at first we were kind of hesitant, but with some additional discussion and deliberation M decided he might just be ok with the couple thing (it didn’t bother me at all…I get the best of both worlds!). At first he wasn’t comfortable with the thought of me with another man, but he started to warm up to it when we realized how cool E and B were. So we went to spend the night at their place...

…and nothing happened. We played some cards and talked like old friends, but when it came right down to it, we were too chicken shit to take advantage of our situation. We still had a great time though and the next time we talked to them online we all decided to do it again at our place next time and actually get some action involved. Unfortunately, that hasn’t happened yet!

The next couple we met online were N and I. They lived a lot closer to us than the previous couple. A few blocks to be exact! We didn’t meet them though until we went to the club. They introduced us to said club. A secret club for swingers! In our own town. Within walking distance. A place so close to us that my father in law goes there when it’s just a regular old bar (any time but Saturday nights). He had actually taken us for dinner there before. Our little city has a swingers club. Who knew?? We just had to hope that mother in law and father in law didn’t know that this bar turned into the club! So far no sign of them!

And that is where our story begins…